Isti’azah To Control Anger

 حَدَّثَنَا عُمَرُ بْنُ حَفْصٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي، حَدَّثَنَا الأَعْمَشُ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عَدِيُّ بْنُ ثَابِتٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنَ صُرَدٍ، رَجُلاً مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَغَضِبَ أَحَدُهُمَا، فَاشْتَدَّ غَضَبُهُ حَتَّى انْتَفَخَ وَجْهُهُ وَتَغَيَّرَ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الَّذِي يَجِدُ ‏"‌‏.‏ فَانْطَلَقَ إِلَيْهِ الرَّجُلُ فَأَخْبَرَهُ بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَقَالَ تَعَوَّذْ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ‏.‏ فَقَالَ أَتُرَى بِي بَأْسٌ أَمَجْنُونٌ أَنَا اذْهَبْ‏ 

Narrated Sulaiman bin Surad: 

A man from the companions of the Prophet (SAW) said, "Two men abused each other in front of the Prophet (SAW) and one of them became angry and his anger became so intense that his face became swollen and changed. The Prophet (SAW) said, "I know a word the saying of which will cause him to relax if he does say it." Then a man went to him and informed him of the statement of the Prophet (SAW) and said, "Seek refuge with Allah from Satan." On that, the angry man said, 'Do you find anything wrong with me? Am I insane? Go away!" 

Grade: Sahih 

Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari 6048 

https://sunnah.com/bukhari/78/78 

Lessons: 

1. Anger is influenced by Satan. Imam al-Ghazali said that one feels anger because his nerves are “pulled” by Satan. 

2. When a person is angry, he loses his rationality. If he does not control his anger, his actions can make it appear like he has lost his mind. 

3. When angry, Rasulullah (SAW) teaches us to say: “أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم”, which means: “I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the Accursed”. 

Allah mentions: “And if there comes to you from Satan an evil suggestion, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is the Hearing, the Knowing.” [Al-Fussilat, 41:36] 

4. We must always seek Allah’s protection from the Syaitan that continually seeks to influence us to express our anger.